Why Dressing Like Your Friends Is Actually The Best

by: Rosie Dalton | 11 months ago | Features

Image: Kitty Callaghan and I twinning in black dresses at dinner in Paris.

As a teen in the 2000s, it was basically considered a rite of passage to read ‘The Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants’ by Ann Brashares. Later turned into a film, this book centres on a universally flattering pair of trousers that is shared by four friends. And while somewhat silly, the subject matter of this book was actually pretty important – considering the fact that it advocated for sharing your clothes. Released when fast fashion was quickly gaining momentum, the book was actually a precursor to the sharing economy that now governs the way we travel, buy and sell goods. And today it continues to make a solid case for friendship dressing. 

While there may have once been a fair amount of shame wrapped up in wearing the same dress to a party, I now think there’s a real sense of pride to be gained from dressing like your friends. A natural side effect of spending lots of time with someone is also developing a similar uniform and that, I believe, is a pretty a good indicator that you share similar values too. Of course, I am not talking about the ability to buy the same dress that everyone owns here, but instead sharing a proclivity for certain brands, silhouettes and outfit construction with your pals.

Personally, I feel that each of my closest girlfriends has their own distinct personal style, but I can also appreciate that – from an outsider’s perspective – there are lots of similarities between our wardrobes. Many of my friends, for example, also share an affinity for timeless black dresses and worn-in blue denim. Not just for the styles themselves, either, but for wearing them with bold accessories, comfortable footwear and a splash of colour somewhere in the look.

There are also commonalities between our silhouettes of choice (subtly dramatic) – which I believe reflects similar tastes in art and culture. And many of my friends seem to gravitate towards a few core pieces and then wear them to death. Which belies a desire to consume more responsibly and get the maximum wear out of everything we buy. Again, the old-school shame around this sort of outfit repeating now seems to have given way to a much more liberating movement in favour of the personal uniform. And it’s a uniform that I’m proud to share with some of my BFFs.

Friend dressing makes you feel like you belong to a club – which you sort of do, because having similar wardrobes also means having similar core values. And it means that you can share clothes with your pals too. Which, in turn, reduces textile waste and improves your garment’s cost per wear tenfold. I am constantly borrowing items of clothing from my closest girlfriends like Kitty, for example – and especially when I have a special occasion coming up and feel like wearing something ‘new’.

Sharing clothes with your friends is a great way to buy less, but also solidify the special bond you have with your friends. It means having the freedom to try out particular brands or styles that you might not have originally been drawn to and, therefore, also allows you to get in touch with what works best for you personally. Sure, it means that the nuances between your personal uniforms tend to become somewhat subtler, but I actually love that. Because it requires more careful consideration around the pieces you do add to your wardrobe and, at the same time, allows you to dress as part of a tribe.

Above all, though, friendship dressing also means saving the planet from a little extra textile waste. And, with that in mind, there can be no doubt that dressing like your friends is not a sartorial faux pas, but instead it’s a sign of good style choices and even better friendships. So don’t be afraid to dress the same as someone else – because you might actually find that they’re one of your new best friends. 


My friends and I love black dresses, so here are some of my faves currently on the site:


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